1. What are some myths that you have heard about Birth Control? Where did they come from?2. Myths about sex? pregnancy, std's, etc? (example, if a boy pulls out before he ejaculates the girl won't get pregnant). Outlandish, common, weird...anything goes.3. What personal stories does anyone have about having had abstinence only education? what happened to you because of it?(these answers may be used in a paper for an english class, though they will all be used anonymously, no identifying information beyond that it came from livejournal will even be given to anyone).
excuse my language but abstinence only education is fucked up. the government will only fund sex-ed programs in schools if they only teach abstinence. i was lucky enough to go to a school where they didn't care if it was government-funded or not. i was taught the proper ways of birth control and it was nice to hear it from a reliable source. though it was taught my freshman year of hs and the students in the class were pretty immature about it, i'm sure that much more came from us learning barrier/hormonal methods than abstinence only, as my school wouldn't have dealt with no sex.as for the myths, i'm pretty alright with that. i haven't believed many of them and if i have in the past, i don't remember. the one thing that bothers me though is that many, many guys believe that if they pull out before they ejaculate, it's impossible for a girl to get pregnant. why do they believe this...? coudln't tell you.
I feel like abstinence only education is dangerous, kids need to know the risks and benefits of different forms of birth control, regardless of whether or not they are planning to have sex before marriage, because everyone in a responsible society needs to know these things. We need a mixture that promotes abstaining but also teaches the facts about sex, without using scare tactics or distorted facts. I came from a pretty conservative small town, and the education I got from school was pretty much "if you have sex, you will get pregnant." We never really learned about condoms, I just remember seeings lots of disgusting pictures of STDS. I never learned about the pill or female condoms until a sex ed course in college. I still have a fear of getting pregnant, in fact, I've never had vaginal sex, only oral and masturbation, in part because I'm terrified of pregnancy, although I do consider myself incredibly sexual and orgasmic. Now the education I got about sex from my church (Southern Baptist) was much more conservative, and I remember it being very very sex negative. I signed the True Love Waits pledge when I was 12 or 13, before I'd ever kissed a boy, I didn't even know women could have orgasms at the time. So in a way my conservative education worked, I'm not pregnant, but am I missing out with the vaginal sex thing? My mom was always open and willing to talk about it, so that helped a great deal, but I still felt a generalized shame and fear of talking about or getting caught having sex. We need to give kids open honest facts about the benefits and risks of sex and abstinence, and let them decide for themselves, but always be there to guide. 2. Myths about sex? pregnancy, std's, etc? (example, if a boy pulls out before he ejaculates the girl won't get pregnant). I was always terrified of precum, for a very long time in my early sex years. I thought touching precum and then masturbating would get me pregnant, and I'm really still not sure how true this could be. I was worried about swallowing, then kissing him, then him going down on me and getting me pregnant that way.
I was worried about swallowing, then kissing him, then him going down on me and getting me pregnant that way.Shit. I never thought about that. AHHH now I'm scared!
no don't be scared! It's completely absurd now that I look back on it. Unless his tongue is Gene Simmons long. There's hardly any cum in most guy's precum and the spit probably dillutes it.
A myth I heard... well, someone told a little girl who then told me:To get pregnant, you put pumpkin seeds up your vagina.
Hearing that brightened up my day. :P
Okay.. the thing is.. pulling out DOES work! It doesn't protect from std's and it shouldn't be done unless in a monogamous relationship, and no it's not 100% foolproof.. but neither is any other form of birthcontrol. I'm in a long term monogamous relationship and we've been using the method for 3 years with no problems. A myth I've heard is that if you have sex during or right after your period.. the girl can't get pregnant.... and that's how one of my friends got pregnant at 18.
That's like if your pregnant you can't get pregnant during that, you can. I know I woman who carried both babies to term The younger one was able to hold on the extra three months. The doctors couldn't believe it. Most of the time in those cases the second child is a premature baby that doctors think is just a twin but it's really not.
Abstinence only sex ed taught me not to have sex until I'm ready to mother a child. I'm 19 now, and certainly not ready. I've said no both aloud and in principle when I've wanted with all my hormones to say yes, and it's made me stronger. I've had to deal with countless insults and physical harassment, but I know that I can trust myself to stand on my principles, and it's done wonders for my confidence. I'm so glad I made the commitment.
I'm 23 & I was abstinent until I was 18. Partly becasue since age 12 I've decided I NEVER wanted to have children ESPECIALLY not while I was in school. I mean I did other 'stuff', and the people I dated understood My decision. So I was never pressured by them, the only guys that did pressure me were guys that didn't want a relationship with me.